How often do you big yourself up and pat yourself on the back? Think about that for a second. If you put yourself down more than you big yourself up, then I am here to shake you like a stick and tell you to snap out of that cycle.
Shy. Quiet. A pushover. All things I've been called before. For a long time I took those labels on as my own identity. It's only really in the past couple of years that people have said things to me that have challenged those thoughts.
I'm not shy.... I don't particularly like being in busy environments and I get nervous for meeting new people, but once I meet them I can quite happily chat to them. Quiet... well, yes, I am softly spoken, but once you know me I chat the hind legs off a donkey. Pushover.... yes, I have been in the past. But no more. I know my worth now and life has thrown things at me that i've bounced back from, like the John Lewis dog on a trampoline (a similie I heard from an inspiring woman: Katie Oman).
For so long I have been a modest person. I still am. I do not like to boast and brag, fearful that I look cocky and arrogant. But there is a line and praising yourself and recognising your strengths isn't being cocky. I would be the person who if given a compliment would thank but dismiss it... give an excuse, like it was a fluke. But that's just not doing yourself justice. If you always downplay your strengths then you're not shining like the star you are. And you are a star. We all are. And it's time for you to shine bright.
So, today I want to share with you a little story of something that happened to me today that I'm proud of. That's right...I'm PROUD of MYSELF. I want to share this story because I was inspired to do so by the amazing Gemma Sandwell from The Happiness Branch. Gemma has played a huge part in my personal growth and her coaching sessions and support have given me a whole new perspective in life.
So here's the story...
I'm in the middle of applying for jobs. I applied for a job at a place where I really wanted to make a diffference but I didn't really like the role. I didn't feel confident that I'd get the job at all or be what they were looking for anyway, so to cut a long story short, I ended up withdrawing from the post because the hours didn't work for me and I had some emotional bagage connected to the place of work that I wasn't ready to deal with for a job that wasn't entirely what I wanted.
Speed forwards a couple of hours and the place rings me and is begging me to apply, saying they were really impressed with my application and thought that I would be a perfect addition to the team. I explained my concerns and they said they'd love to meet me for an informal chat about the possibility of me building up some time there to see if I felt comfortable, because they really wanted me to join their team.
I was shocked. Blown off my feet shocked that they were so desperate for me and thought I was that good. But the facts still remained about the position that I didn't want.
So I did something brave. Really brave for me... someone who has previously been thought of as someone who wouldn't say boo to a goose. I got back to them and said how well I thought we would work together and that I really want to make a difference, but that position wasn't right for me. I instead put forward to them a whole new position that doesn't currently exist, but that would play on my strengths and please me and benefit them. I had nothing to lose. I was ballsy and stood in my power and thought "why the hell not?".
I don't know if anything will come of it, but the point is, I was brave enough to stand for myself and stay authentic to me and suggest to the manager the dream job that I would ideally like from them, because I knew how much they were interested in me. That in itself, is a win. I didn't downplay myself. I didn't shrug off the compliment or just accept what they were offering. I took it and made something of it. That's a huge step for me as a person and my growth and development and I'm here to celebrate it.
Your successes can be big and small. They could be making a cup of tea and drinking it before it went cold or it could be you climbed a huge mountain.They are all sucesses and make a difference. So, my question to you is: what have you done lately that you're proud of? Tell me something (or multiple - the more the better!) about yourself that you love and is great! Because if you don't love yourself and believe in yourself, then you can't expect anyone else to either. But just know, that I believe in you.
I can't wait to hear from you.